Pen, thanks so much for your kind words.
Yes over here, the bride's family is responsible for more, but we are going to help as much as they need it.  The groom's family is responsible for things like the rehearsal dinner.  We have called one restaurant since yesterday, and that one might work.  They have the church set up and the celebrant wíll be the bride's uncle who is a pastor at a church a couple of hours from here.  Jesse wanted me to sing at his wedding, but i don't know that I can do that.  During allergy season, my voice can be very "iffy" depending on sinus troubles.  Plus, i may be too emotional to handle that!  i know I wíll be emotional because this is my first one getting married. To add a bit more stress.  My daughter Kelli called yesterday and informed me her boyfriend was asking her ring size.  we have suspected a proposal was not far off and that makes me believe my suspicions are correct.
I know Jesse's wedding wíll be great fun, and my ten year old is going to be happy to wear a tux.  I wíll have fun picking a special outfit to wear.  It is just getting things taken care of so quickly that wíll be the problem.  
I am hoping my health wíll hold up for all of this because I really want to enjoy it.