Linda, try not to worry, do what you have to do, and it wíll fall into place.  You are right the first married is very emotional.... My eldest daughter married in 1993 and it was very emotional.  I was working full time and running around like a chook without its head trying to arrange everything.  The venue, the menu, the music, the speeches, the seating.... the horse and carriage the bride came in..... oh! boy what a lot of work.....but the wedding went off like a charm.  Now they are getting a divorce.... my daughter gave up on him..... now if she had only listened to her momma all those years ago...   But you cannot put an old head on young shoulders.  
I am very happy for Jesse and your daughter..... marriage is so exciting for them....and a big step. Let them do some of the arranging.... and try not to wear yourself out....you are just so precious.

Pen