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Oct 8 15 11:17 AM
icepick wrote:Hi Pen;I'm really sorry to hear about this. The loss of a pet is always tough. Especially long standing pets. When this happens, the pet's owner always says something about this one being special ................. HEY! They're all special. How many friends do you have that's even close to being as loyal as a pet almost invariably is? That's a devastating loss for anybody. If that constant companion has been around a long time? Oh, man! It's unbelievably hard to take.lying Whereas all animals are special, Duke was especially special to us..... such a loving animal. I have had many dogs over the years, but this particular dog was extra special..... he laid his head on our chests..... he laid his head on our laps.... and it wasn't his chin, he turned his head sideways and laid his head like we would lay our head on someone we loved. I have never seen that in a dog before. You are right about friends letting us down..... our son's mates have severely let him down over the years, hence why he was so devoted to his dog.... and his dog to him. At present he cannot even mention his dog without the tears welling in his eyes. At one stage when my son was living alone, he had no internet, no car and only his mobile phone..... and it was not connected to the internet. All he had was his work and his dog..... and the bond between him and Duke was very special. Duke was only 8 years old.... we never expected him to die for years yet.....We went through this last spring. We lost a cat that we had for twenty years. I never had any pet for twenty years before that. It tore both of us right up. And we've been having this phenomenon ever since. We'll be lying in bed, and feel it shake the same way that it always did when he would jump up on it. Ripper weighed twenty pounds, so it's hard to mistake that. Yes, he's still around.Our cat of 20 years died a couple of months ago, and that rocked us..... even though we expected it because she was nearly blind, deaf, and incontinent.... it still really upset us all. We were busy outside on the patio putting the covers back on our cushions for the outdoor setting that we had washed and she was laying at our feet.... then later we noticed she had gone, and Edd went looking for her and she was laying dead in the garden. So we know that feeling you're experiencing .............. that empty hole in your daily life. You have our sympathies, condolences, and anything else appropriate of course, but that seems woefully inadequate to me. It sounds like this dog was around for a long time, and had taken a position he thought needed filling. Dogs are like that. Very perceptive creatures. They always seem to know what's needed, do they not? And that loyalty of a pet that I mentioned? Dogs take it to an entirely different level. Humans could really do well if they would only take loyalty training from their dogs. Hey, they helped us get through the ice age. We might have starved ourselves into extinction if we hadn't teamed up with the wolves. Most people don't think of this, but the hunting skills that wolves brought to the human tribes they joined must have seemed like a miracle to those people. And ................. like the example you told us of where this dog filled some very definite needs, they continue doing so to this day, in one way or another. I can sense your loss. I offer my condolences, and pray that you may find the solace that you need as soon as possible. I feel especially sorry for your son. Those massive sized dogs are always a very powerful bond for a guy when we have one for a pet. When we lose one like that, it's almost like one of your kids just died. The traditional role that guys are raised to assume, requires that we may only have a very few, select friends that we can trust, and be able to relax about it. One of them just happens to be our dogs. Tell your son that he has my sympathies if it's okay to do so please. Our son is a giant, so a small dog is not for him..... his other dog, "Daisy" is bigger than Duke was. Now he is paying special attention to her because he knows she will fret.... he took her out walking last night and she slept with him..... he doesn't want to lose her too. Daisy was Duke's soul mate.... they played all the time, especially tug or war.... Daisy would pick up her length of thick rope and go and throw it at Duke.... then he would grab it and they would tug at it and play for ages. Now Daisy is laying around looking very glum. Our dogs are too small to play with, as she is gigantic next to them. She is just laying outside at present just staring into space..... I don't know why it always bothers me so much to hear about another person's pet dying, but it does.Take care;TimIt's like losing a child Tim..... Our son grieved so badly.... the sobbing right from the pit of his stomach.... we were grieving but also concerned about him..... he feels things so strongly and is an empath too. He said on the day that Duke died, now he knows how parents feel when their children die..... because to him Duke was his child. Pen
Hi Pen;I'm really sorry to hear about this. The loss of a pet is always tough. Especially long standing pets. When this happens, the pet's owner always says something about this one being special ................. HEY! They're all special. How many friends do you have that's even close to being as loyal as a pet almost invariably is? That's a devastating loss for anybody. If that constant companion has been around a long time? Oh, man! It's unbelievably hard to take.lying
We went through this last spring. We lost a cat that we had for twenty years. I never had any pet for twenty years before that. It tore both of us right up. And we've been having this phenomenon ever since. We'll be lying in bed, and feel it shake the same way that it always did when he would jump up on it. Ripper weighed twenty pounds, so it's hard to mistake that. Yes, he's still around.
So we know that feeling you're experiencing .............. that empty hole in your daily life. You have our sympathies, condolences, and anything else appropriate of course, but that seems woefully inadequate to me. It sounds like this dog was around for a long time, and had taken a position he thought needed filling. Dogs are like that. Very perceptive creatures. They always seem to know what's needed, do they not? And that loyalty of a pet that I mentioned? Dogs take it to an entirely different level. Humans could really do well if they would only take loyalty training from their dogs. Hey, they helped us get through the ice age. We might have starved ourselves into extinction if we hadn't teamed up with the wolves. Most people don't think of this, but the hunting skills that wolves brought to the human tribes they joined must have seemed like a miracle to those people. And ................. like the example you told us of where this dog filled some very definite needs, they continue doing so to this day, in one way or another. I can sense your loss. I offer my condolences, and pray that you may find the solace that you need as soon as possible. I feel especially sorry for your son. Those massive sized dogs are always a very powerful bond for a guy when we have one for a pet. When we lose one like that, it's almost like one of your kids just died. The traditional role that guys are raised to assume, requires that we may only have a very few, select friends that we can trust, and be able to relax about it. One of them just happens to be our dogs. Tell your son that he has my sympathies if it's okay to do so please.
I don't know why it always bothers me so much to hear about another person's pet dying, but it does.Take care;Tim
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